You raise a really valid point here, Michelle, and I am not sure I can answer it. As inconceivable as it may be, I still instinctively believe the forward is not to attach blame to an abuser. But it is indeed, as you say, a toughie. I will have to do a great deal of contemplation and reading before i can come up with any better response. Thank you for your contribution. In gratitude and kindness, A🙏💚