The line I highlighted spoke to me because i find it easier to spot patterns in other people than in myself. And the bit about choosing partners to humiliate me . . .I think I'm trying to say that: parents unwittingly load their children with "stuff" that the child will then need to later learn to let go of. From beliefs to dreams. The child will often go on to form relationships with people who mirror the dynamic they grew familiar with in childhood. SO, for me, mother was an alcoholic who used to fly into rages at unpredictable times. So, I married an alcoholic who used to fly into rages. It wasn't until i was able to clear and let go of what I had picked up from my mother, that I was able to see the pattern and get out.

Hope that is a BIT clearer. 💚🙏