OMG. There is no way I am going to wade in with any advice on this one. But I will say WHAT a fantastic read. There were a few bits where I was laughing where I probably shouldn't have been. All I could think was, thank goodness my parents died before they got dementia. AND this is partly why I smoke - (a) it protects against Alzheimer's but more importantly (b) it will probably kill me before I get old enough to be a burden to my children. Lots of upsides to smoking. I wish you LUCK. i hope whichever road you go down, that YOU get to enjoy the wedding.