Oh Kerstin, I am so sorry that you too, are dealing with a loved one who has an alcohol problem. Do you go to Al-Anon? I'm going to go this week, because I want to be prepared for how I will cope if this doesn't work. I "know" - a deep heart knowing i think - that I shall have to let him go if this doesn't work and that feels so hard. I have a month to prepare .The comments here by Peter Wirhun and JI Milils have helped me especially. Yours is a cautionary tale of how very hard it can be to navigate the situation, and I thank you so much for sharing it. I hope you too can take some comfort from the comments here that people have so generously gifted. I send my very warmest wishes to you and your brother. Wishes that encompass healing and peace. A💚