It occurs to me (although I am often wrong) that I don't think autistic people are given to wallowing or sharing sob stories - we just like TRUTH, and aren't really looking for anything back. Might just be me.

Your description of wanting someone who can speak without words yet also happy to talk about anything, happy with distance, liking good movies, good books and hard labour - makes we wonder if we aren't split-aparts! 😂🙏💚💕