I wish I had an answer for you, but alas, I don't. I like what Emy said. I will say only this: it's ok to sit with not-knowing, until you do know. If I don't know what to do, i do nothing and just keep checking in to see if that has changed. Be very kind to yourself. And allow yourself to feel the anger and express it. Sorry, that is all I've got. A🙏💚