I have been in similar circumstances. Not the same. Nothing is ever the same.

I divorced my husband, the father of my 4 children, and I have no regrets. Take a deep breath and remember that these words I am about to write come from my heart but they are mine and you must take only what is useful and discard the rest. I divorced BECAUSE of my children. I heard the truth that children don't mind who they are with, as long as who they are with is happy. I wanted to be a role model for them: I wanted them to see that it is OK for them to walk away from something that isn't bringing them happiness. I wanted them to see that it is good to be selfish, to put yourself and your own happiness first. My husband was devastated, and I remember crying with a friend and saying, "Look at what i have done to him". She said: YES, look at what you have done, you have given him a great gift, the gift of pain and healing and growth. My adult children have all gone on to have relationships that have lasted longer than my first marriage did. They are healthy and happy. Whichever path you choose, it is going to be tough. But I thrived and got creative and learnt so much when finances got unstable. And the joy that came from having some time for myself, when the children went to their Dad's - it was heaven. I was a better parent because of it. I will support you anyway I can whatever decision you make.

Forgive me. Please don't think of what i have written as "advice".

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