I have 4 sons, Aracelly, and cannot begin to imagine the pain of losing one. There is so much wisdom in what you share here. I think all good parents question where they might have gone wrong, but the truth is, and I do "know" this at a soul level - all parents do the very best they can with what has gone before. There should be no blame.
We can only do for others what we first do for ourselves, so I am full of admiration for your understanding that you need to be kind to yourself.
Be very kind to yourself. I promise to do the same. And as you have extended your kindness to me today, I hope to be able to do that for others in the future. This may have come out a bit wrong. I'm struggling to put words in the right order. So I hope you can read between the lines and recognise that I am very grateful to you. A🙏💚