Enough of This Forgiveness Nonsense

Stop working on forgiveness, do this instead

Dogs don’t know the meaning of the word blame. Photo by Lum3n on pexels.com

You are probably not going to like this, but I’m going to say it anyway. I don’t like forgiveness — it implies blame. You have to blame someone first to feel you need to forgive them. To get to the root of most pain, it is not forgiveness we need to learn. Instead, we need to learn not to blame in the first place. We are all doing the best we can with what has gone before.

Have you heard the story about the woman who hated her mother-in-law?

Her mother-in-law was a bitter, complaining woman with a sharp tongue. She wanted her out of her life. She wanted her to die. So, she went to the Shaman and asked for a potion to kill her mother-in-law.

The Shaman mixed up a potion and advised the woman to rub the oil into her mother-in-law’s feet every night for 30 nights. He said that on the 31st day, her mother-in-law would die.

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The woman did as he instructed. She knelt before her mother-in-law and massaged the hard skin of her feet, imagining the poison taking hold.