Dear Valeria, I found you because you left such a wonderful comment on someone's article where they were advocating badges for bullies. I have read this and feel moved to check in with you. I notice it was written in November. I hope you are feeling better now or that something has shifted for you. It is so honest of you to admit that you don't like this girl. I don't like her either. I hope that in writing about it, something might have shifted for you. It was a courageous thing to do. And I admire you. I think teachers are so undervalued, and you deserve so much better: more support, more money, more everything. The job that you do is, to my mind, THE most important one. Nurturing the next generation. What could be more important. A🙏

I've asked my husband, who was a teacher what he thinks. He says you have done nothing wrong - the child is the product of poor parenting and you cannot fix this or cure the bullying. He said that if was him, he would chat to the girl on a one-to-one after school and talk to her about her clothes and expensive possessions and ask her where she shops. He would upfront that he doesn't wear expensive clothes because he doesn't earn much. He would say to her that she is lucky at the moment because Mum and Dad are paying for things, but ask her whether she has thought of what sort of job she would need to get the income she will need to continue shopping in that way and be able to buy for herself the things she desires. What sort of job does she want. What college would she need to get in to if she aspires to a high income? He would try to get her to focus on herself a bit more and her aims and ambitions. In short he would take an interest. He would try to get her to talk about where she likes to shop and what does she think about this brand or that brand?

I'm not sure that is useful at all, but I pass it on anyway.

In kindness, A🙏