Dear Tai

I cannot thank you enough for sharing your perspective. I imagine that it would have been easier, and probably preferable to just move on without engaging. I suspect you have spoken on behalf of many who feel the same way.

You are so right that words don't always convey exactly what we mean or how we feel.

I hope that I have read this right: that you know and accept that you were not in any way responsible for what happened to you at the hands of your father-person.

I am so glad to read that you have recognised that dwelling on the abuser is counter-productive and what matters is YOU and focussing on your now. Not everyone reaches that stage, and it is testimony to how far you have come on your healing journey.

My hope for you is that you find a way to release all animosity, not for his sake, but for yours: that you may become lighter.

I am going to attempt a different way of explaining what I am trying to get at: when we are born, we are born pure. Pure light, pure awareness, pure soul. Then stuff happens. At the hands of adults, and sometimes other damaged children: they pile a load of crap onto our pure soul. Our curriculum in life is to clear the crap. This can be a lifetime's work. Not everyone manages it.

But your light shines brightly, Tai.

Your pure soul is visible to me.

You are doing an epic job of clearing the kind of crap that would have snuffed out the light in most souls.

You are a victor.

And I rejoice.

A 💚

PS: I might not have said it right but trusting you can read the spaces in-between the lines.