Awareness is the first step to change, Art. And you have been so honest and open here. I applaud you. In defence of your wife (sorry, I can't help myself) exercise isn't for everyone. I was told ages ago by a Chinese Face Reader that I should only exercise by accident (housework/gardening etc). Also the Chinese believe you are only born with so many breaths and when you have used them up you die. So getting out of breath by exercising is not a good move 😂. Whose to know? We are all different aren't we. Love is accepting the other person just the way they are. But it's hard to do if we don't accept ourselves just the way we are first. You have done that here. Bravo!